11 Things That I Hate About My Ex

11 Things That I Hate About My Ex

1. Sulipat, duling, o banlag na ewan siya at malabo ang mga mata niya.

2. Tinutulugan niya ako sa sinehan kahit ang ganda pa ng movie na pinapanood namin.

3. Hindi siya marunong humalik at maitim ang gilagid niya.

4. Lagi nalang bili mo ko nun, bili mo ko niyan.

5. Puro tartar ang ipin niya sa kakayosi.

6. Tingin niya sa akin atm, mas madalas pang manghingi ng pera kesa magsabi ng ingat pagkatapos naming mag-date.

7. Ang takaw kumain, parang me bulate sa tiyan, ako naman ang laging taya pag kumakain kami sa labas.

8. Mas importante pa sa kanya ang tropa niya kesa sa akin.

9. Hindi niya ina-accept ang tag ng mga post kong photos namin together sa fb or ni minsan di siya nag post sa fb niya ng picture namin na magkasama kami.

10. Puro acne ang mukha niya at ako pa ang nabili ng skincare product niya.

11. Pag kasama mo siya sa staycation or pamamasyal laging sa phone nakatutok.

Jeyrick Sigmaton: The Viral Carrot Man

Netizens went frenzy with the newest social media sensation dubbed as the “Carrot Man” after some photos of an Igorot worker who was identified as Jeyrick Sigmaton went viral on Facebook because of his photogenic physical features which was even compared to some Korean artists.

The photo of Jeyrick Sigmaton also known as he “carrot man” was first posted by a certain Edwina T. Bandong on Facebook and shared on various Facebook Pages in the Philippines.

According to Bandong the photos were taken on their way to Sagada, when she and her companions saw the Jeyrick Sigmaton carrying carrots.

Due to the young man’s good looks, Bandong decided to take some photos and shared it on Facebook for everyone to adore without knowing that the photos were pick up by Positive Outlook Plus FB Page and went viral a few hours it was posted.

Some netizens expressed their admiration with the “carrot man” who is reportedly a member of the Igorot tribe from Kadaclan, Mt. Province. There are netizens who also pointed out some similarities of the Igorot carrot man to Korean star, Cho Min-ho, Jang Geun Suk and even former Star Quest finalist Hero Angeles.

 

HIV/AIDS Stigma

When I wrote the play script “Si Kiriring, Aida’t  Macaraig” 20 years ago, I have a little knowledge in this subject. I relied on what I have read in the newspaper and what I have seen in the television news and documentaries.  There is no  immersion in this project except for the sensationalized life story of Sarah Jane Salazar who happened to be the girlfriend of my hunk neighbor. I had a chance to drink with Sarah, one night in a videoke bar near my place.  It was a casual encounter, a very quick chit-chat.  After she finished a stick of Philip Morris cigarette our conversation ended. She didn’t even admit that she was the famous Sarah  in the television. We talked about the boys in her life right after she sang  Joey Albert’s “Iisa pa Lamang’. Then the next time I saw her, she was already a monument moulded in Pasay City to represent the first  face of HIV/AIDS here in the Philippines.

Kristine Ryan or Kiriring was inspired by a real life mail-order-bride in Italy who suffered from white slavery in the hands of her Italian pen pal. When she came back to the Philippines after her tragic tale she was already diagnosed with HIV/AIDS. I saw her in Brigada Siete documentary. She confessed her story in a silhouette interview by Jessica Soho.  During the 90’s HIV/AIDS infected were afraid to be out in the public because of the stigma and discrimination.  PLHIV were faceless and hiding behind the shadow of this dreaded disease.

Aida was inspired by the life story of Maricris Sioson, Dolzura Cortez and the movie “Ligaya ang Itawag mo sa akin. During the late 90’s there were already support groups and  HIV/AIDS awareness campaign during that time but the ARV were not yet available. Sex workers were in the frontline to acquire the virus that they can multiply thru their customers and lovers.

The love story of Shane and Ericson Macaraig, a gay-themed play was a pure product of my imagination. It was a ‘what if’ inspired story.  What if a gay couple was afflicted by HIV/AIDS, how are they going to deal with it?  Can they accept their fate? Will they stick together or break apart? To many questions that I was able to  answer when I started to hold a pen and write it freely.   In the year 2000 Men having Sex with Men (MSM) population was in the front page in the HIV/AIDS scene.  Until today MSM are still considered as  high risk for being infected as most of them practice having multiple sexual partners.

 

 

related literature on HIV/AIDS Stigma and discrimination:

Stigma, discrimination and HIV

Man with red ribbon over his mouth

HIV-related stigma and discrimination refers to prejudice, negative attitudes and abuse directed at people living with HIV and AIDS.

The consequences of stigma and discrimination are wide-ranging. Some people are shunned by family, peers and the wider community, while others face poor treatment in healthcare and education settings, erosion of their human rights, and psychological damage. These all limit access to HIV testing, treatment and other HIV services.

Why is there stigma around HIV and AIDS?

The fear surrounding the emerging HIV epidemic in the 1980s persists today. At that time, very little was known about how HIV is transmitted, which made people scared of those infected due to fear of contagion.

This fear, coupled with many other reasons, means that lots of people believe:

  • HIV and AIDS are life-threatening conditions associated with death
  • HIV is associated with behaviours that people disapprove of (like homosexuality, drug use, sex work or infidelity)
  • HIV is only transmitted through sex, which is considered a taboo subject in some cultures
  • HIV infection is the result of personal irresponsibility
  • being infected with HIV is the result of moral fault (such as infidelity or ‘deviant sex’) that deserves to be punished
  • inaccurate information about how HIV is transmitted, creating irrational behaviour and misperceptions of personal risk.1

In Somalia, most people associate HIV with infidelity, to the extent that some people living with HIV travel to neighbouring countries to receive treatment in an effort to hide their condition. Despite government backed TV and radio campaigns to encourage conversation about HIV, stigma continues, and accessing treatment remains difficult for people living with HIV.2

HIV stigma and key affected populations

Key affected populations are groups of people who are disproportionately affected by HIV and AIDS, such as men who have sex with men, people who inject drugs and sex workers. Stigma and discrimination are often directed towards these groups simply because others disapprove of their behaviours.

Stigma also varies depending on the dominant transmission routes in a country or region. In sub-Saharan Africa, for example, heterosexual sex is the main route of infection, which means that HIV-related stigma in this region is mainly focused on infidelity and sex work.3

These people are increasingly marginalised, not only from society, but from the services they need to protect themselves from HIV. Half of all new HIV infections worldwide are among people belonging to key affected populations.4

In 2014, the World Health Organisation (WHO) released the Consolidated guidelines on HIV prevention, diagnosis, treatment and care for key populations, reflecting the need for more focused HIV prevention initiatives for these groups and ways to prevent stigma.Download stigma infographic

How stigma affects the response to HIV

The WHO cites fear of stigma and discrimination as the main reason why people are reluctant to get tested, disclose their HIV status and take antiretroviral drugs.5

One study found that participants who reported high levels of stigma were over four times more likely to report poor access to care.6 This contributes to the expansion of the global HIV epidemic and a higher number of AIDS-related deaths.

An unwillingness to take an HIV test means that more people are diagnosed late, when the virus may have already progressed to AIDS. This makes treatment less effective, increasing the likelihood of transmitting HIV to others, and causing early death.

“The epidemic of fear, stigmatization and discrimination has undermined the ability of individuals, families and societies to protect themselves and provide support and reassurance to those affected. This hinders, in no small way, efforts at stemming the epidemic. It complicates decisions about testing, disclosure of status, and ability to negotiate prevention behaviours, including use of family planning services.” 7

How stigma affects people living with HIV

HIV-related stigma and discrimination exist worldwide, although they manifest themselves differently across countries, communities, religious groups and individuals.

Research by the International Centre for Research on Women (ICRW) found the possible consequences of HIV-related stigma to be:

  • loss of income and livelihood
  • loss of marriage and childbearing options
  • poor care within the health sector
  • withdrawal of caregiving in the home
  • loss of hope and feelings of worthlessness
  • loss of reputation.7

Self-stigma/internalised stigma

Self-stigma, or internalised stigma has an equally damaging effect on the mental wellbeing of people living with HIV. This fear of discrimination breaks down confidence to seek help and medical care.1

Self-stigma and fear of a negative community reaction can hinder efforts to address the HIV epidemic by continuing the wall of silence and shame surrounding the virus.

“I am afraid of giving my disease to my family members-especially my youngest brother who is so small. It would be so pitiful if he got the disease. I am aware that I have the disease so I do not touch him. I talk with him only. I don’t hold him in my arms now.”woman in Vietnam 7

Sources of HIV and AIDS-related stigma and discrimination

HIV and AIDS-related stigma can lead to discrimination, for example, when people living with HIV are prohibited from travelling, using healthcare facilities or seeking employment.

Governmental stigma

A country’s discriminatory laws, rules and policies regarding HIV can alienate and exclude people living with HIV, reinforcing the stigma surrounding HIV and AIDS.

In 2014, 64% of countries reporting to UNAIDS had some form of legislation in place to protect people living with HIV from discrimination.8

However, criminalisation of key affected populations remains widespread with 60% of countries reporting laws, regulations or policies that present obstacles to providing effective HIV prevention, treatment, care and support.9 In 2015, 75 countries worldwide listed homosexuality as a crime.10

The 2014 International AIDS Conference (AIDS 2014) put the eradication of stigma and discrimination on its agenda, with its slogan “no one left behind” ensuring that non-discrimination is adhered to in the HIV response.11

Examples of governmental discrimination

  • Russia bans harm reduction initiatives for people who inject drugs, including in Crimea, Ukraine.12
  • In 2014, Uganda passed a bill to re-enforce anti-homosexuality legislation.13
  • The Chinese government enforces a compulsory HIV test for anyone applying for a study/work visa longer than six months.14

Healthcare stigma

Healthcare professionals can medically assist someone infected or affected by HIV, and also provide life-saving information on how to prevent it.4

However, healthcare often is not confidential, contains judgement about a person’s HIV status, behaviour, sexual orientation or gender identity and is not respectful. These views are often fuelled by ignorance of HIV transmission routes among healthcare professionals.15

Stigma prevents many people from being honest to healthcare workers when they seek medical help. People fear discrimination if they say they’re a sex worker, have same-sex relations, or inject drugs for example.16

To address this issue, healthcare workers need to be made aware of the negative effect that stigma can have on the quality of care patients receive. They should have accurate information about the risk of HIV infection and should be encouraged not to associate HIV with immoral behaviour.

Examples of healthcare discrimination

  • Lack of confidentiality – many people living with HIV and AIDS do not get to choose how, when and to whom they disclose their HIV status. Studies by the WHO in India, Indonesia, the Philippines and Thailand found that 34% of respondents reported breaches of confidentiality by health workers.17
  • Lack of prioritisation – doctors in healthcare settings in resource-poor areas with limited or no drugs have reported a frustration with the lack of options for treating people with HIV and AIDS, who were seen as ‘doomed’ to die.18 As a result, some HIV and AIDS patients are not prioritised or are actively discriminated against.

Employment stigma

In the workplace, people living with HIV may suffer stigma from their co-workers and employers, such as social isolation and ridicule, or experience discriminatory practices, such as termination or refusal of employment.19 Fear of an employer’s reaction can cause a person living with HIV anxiety:

“It is always in the back of your mind, if I get a job, should I tell my employer about my HIV status? There is a fear of how they will react to it. It may cost you your job, it may make you so uncomfortable it changes relationships. Yet you would want to be able to explain about why you are absent, and going to the doctors.” – HIV-positive woman, UK 18

By reducing stigma in the workplace (via HIV and AIDS education, offering HIV testing, and contributing towards the cost of antiretrovirals) employees are less likely to take days off work, and be more productive in their jobs. This ensures people living with HIV are able to continue working, and the employer doesn’t lose productivity.20

Examples of employment discrimination

  • In December 2010, a report noted that the Chinese national policy for recruiting civil servants specifies that “those who suffer gonorrhoea, syphilis, chanchroid, venereal lympho-granuloma, HPV, genital herpes or HIV will be disqualified. 21 The International Labour Organisation (ILO) commentated, “if the government discriminates against people with HIV, then other sectors will follow, for example, if you apply to be a teacher in the local area”.22
  • A man living with HIV in China filed a lawsuit in 2012 after he was denied a job as a primary school teacher when the employer found out he was HIV-positive. In January 2013, he won the case and received compensation. There is pressure now to remove health tests as part of any employment procedures in China.23 24

Community and household level stigma

Community-level stigma and discrimination towards people living with HIV is found all over the world, with people forced to leave their home, change their daily activities such as shopping, socialising or schooling, face rejection and verbal and physical abuse.

Stigma and discrimination can also take particular forms within community groups such as key affected populations. For example, studies have shown that within some lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) communities there is segregation between HIV-positive and HIV-negative men, where men associate predominately with those of the same status. Other members of LGBT communities have reported stigma based on physical changes due to the side effects of treatment, which can lead people to delay seeking and initiating treatment.25

Examples of community, school and family discrimination

  • In December 1998, Gugu Dhlamini was stoned and beaten to death by neighbours in her township near Durban, South Africa, after speaking openly on World AIDS Day about her HIV status.26
  • A study in Vietnam found that women, less educated people, and those who had not moved from the rural area they grew up in, were more likely to show stigmatising attitudes towards people living with HIV. Interestingly, these were also the people who perceived their own risk of HIV infection to be non-existent, and were not likely to have ever taken an HIV test.27
  • A  survey of Dutch people living with HIV found that stigma in family settings – in particular avoidance, exaggerated kindness and being told to conceal one’s status – actively contributed to psychological distress.28 A global study found that 35% of participants feared losing family and friends if they disclosde their HIV status.29

Restrictions on entry, travel and stay

As of September 2015, 35 countries have laws that restrict the entry, stay and residence of people living with HIV. Lithuania became the most recent country to remove such restrictions.30

Restrictions can include the need to disclose HIV status or be subject to a mandatory HIV test, the need for discretionary approval to stay, and the deportation of individuals once their HIV-positive status is discovered.31

Deportation of people living with HIV has potentially life-threatening consequences if they have been taking HIV treatment and are deported to a country that has limited treatment provision. Alternatively, people living with HIV may face deportation to a country where they would be subject to even further discrimination – a practice that could contravene international human rights law.32

Eradicating stigma

The use of specific HIV, AIDS and sexual reproduction education programmes that emphasise the rights of people living with HIV is a well-documented way of eradicating stigma. As well as being made aware of their rights, people living with HIV can be empowered in order to take action if these rights are violated.

Ultimately, adopting a human rights approach to HIV and AIDS is in the public’s interest. Stigma blocks access to HIV testing and treatment services, making onwards transmission more likely. The removal of barriers to these services is key to ending the global HIV epidemic.33

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Pare, why did you do it alone?

by Harl Berry

Michael Pangilinan joined the bandwagon of 2016 male celebrity video scandal repertoire.

This is another major traffic for Google drive and other porn sites as the gay community watch and save it on their own Cloud and day dream of this young lad.

They said that it is just a look alike but others said it is really Kel, as his close showbiz friends calls him.  You have to see it yourself for you to tell if it’s him or not.  You need to have the audacity  to watch the 13 minute not so boring video during your office hours or your lunch break, just don’t forget  to mute the audio or you might catch the attention of your moralist office mate and you will be branded as porn addict.  Well, of course  I can tell if  it’s really him or not but I don’t want to be a spoiler.

I don’t know if Jobert Sucaldito, his publicist and manager at the same time  will take this as a opportunity to publicize his talent or will just admit to his reporter friends that the original copy of the video came from him.

Michael Pangilinan first got showbiz attention when he joined the reality show XFactor.  He is one of the 15 finalists in the 2014 Himig Handog with his song “Pare, Mahal Mo Raw Ako, written by Joven Tan.  This song became popular to the hokage or discreet  gays in the country. 

Michael also  became one of the celebrity contestants of the second season of the hit “Your Face Sounds Familiar,”  before  he became a part of ASAP new boy group “Harana.”

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latest update as of 2/16/2016

Michael Pangilinan owns up to video scandal

Inamin ni Michael Pangilinan na siya ang lakaki sa panibagong video scandal na kumalat sa social media nitong Valentine’s Day, February 14. Makikita sa nasabing video si Michael habang may ginagawa sa maselang bahagi ng kanyang katawan, at tila may ka-chat sa harap ng computer. Ayon sa “Pare, Mahal Mo Raw Ako” singer, isang Fil-Am na babae ang ka-Skype niya noong sandaling iyon.

http://us.makemefeed.com/2016/02/15/michael-pangilinan-owns-up-to-video-scandal-806074.html

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KAM 2016

Kiriring, Aida’t Macaraig (A Play about HIV)

 

http://www.juice.ph/kultura/event/kiriring-aida-t-macaraig/

 

http://musicmuseumgroup.tumblr.com/

 

http://www.pressreader.com/philippines/the-philippine-star/20160207/283785672893370/TextView

http://elysplanet.com/2016/02/08/aids-stage-play-kiriring-aidat-macaraig/

 

http://www.musicmuseum.com.ph/harold-de-mesas-kiriring-aidat-macaraig/kiriring-aidat-macaraig-official-poster-1000/

http://www.greenhills.com.ph/musicmuseum.php

http://www.whereiseduy.com/2016/02/aids-on-stage-kiriring-aidat-macaraig/

http://megacities-go-services.com/Manila/Manila-Daily-Survive-Manila/Upcoming-Events-in-Manila-Events-Calendar/Harold-de-Mesa-s-Kiriring-Aida-t-Macaraig

AIDS on Stage: Kiriring, Aida’t Macaraig

http://thecityroamer.com/aids-on-stage-kiriring-aidat-macaraig/

http://gramlove.com/user.php?id=991219412&name=premierecondoms

 

 

Aesop’s famous fable

This convo alludes to the Greek writer Aesop’s famous fable about a fox that cannot reach some grapes on a high vine and announces that they are sour. This disparaging is well staged and I commend you for that. 

I am always lenient to your frailty and infirmity and most of the time I am open to  hear your nugatory grievances. I was not expecting that this time you will invite respective audiences to stage your own show.

For your indulgence, I will call on for a special TBAA hearing to formally discuss your paltry and derogatory insinuations.  You can invite your cohorts to explain the discrepancy  on the attached excel file on this convo which is the unexplained  and unsupported financial statement of KAM 2013 that was headed by you and your associates. You and your helm  should take the full responsibility to explain this incongruity  to the entirety of TBAA membership.